I can’t believe someone in this house is really going to wear these shoes. I got used to the idea of having a household full of boys! I was actually starting to like all the positive aspects of it. My boys have changed me in so many ways! I will never be the same woman again, thanks to them!
9 years after having my first child I love to hike, camp and bike. There are other adventures I am sure we will have as they grow up that will continue to change me and make me more fearless and free than I was before I had them 🙂
When I got pregnant with my first boy I read Dr. Dobson’s book Bringing Up Boys. I was excited to have a boy but knew that I was clueless about a lot of what it would take to bring him up because I am not a boy!
This book got my mind ready and made my expectation of what my life was to be with all these boys more realistic. Thanks to this book I knew that boys need an outlet to use up all of their energy. I knew I had to read up on the different ways boys learn. Thanks to my husband’s grandmother I was also ready to teach my children about doing things around the home as I prepared them to be great husbands and dads!
The journey has been great! I continued to have kids…and contined to have boys 🙂 I was getting ample opportunity to put into practice all of the great advice! There were more than enough clothes and toys to pass down. It was looking like we would repeat both our grandma’s stories. My grandmother had 6 boys and my husband’s grandmother had 7 boys. After our 3rd boy we just knew that’s what we would have, a household of boys!
Then one day, late April 2011, I heard the words I gave up waiting on…”Congratulations, you are having a girl!” I could not believe it! As I walked to my car I was feeling light-headed! This did not feel right…so of course, I did what any person in their right mind would naturally do :). I went back 2 more times to confirm the ultrasound! I still heard “Girl”!!
I felt so afraid to accept the news. What if they were wrong? I’ve heard of the “horror” stories, of families being told one sex, preparing for it, and then finding out otherwise at the time of birth. I did not need this happening to me. So I did not buy anything…not until the baby was born. What if it happened to me?
My baby was born late at night, at home in my bathtub. What an experience! After 4 births with epidural this is an experience that I hope to one day soon put to words! When I finally held the baby in my arms I looked at my husband and said “I’m to scared to look!”. He, of course, thought I was crazy :D. I looked, and there you had it! My baby girl! I actually am able to conceive girls!!
Months after she was born reality continued to set in. I was not a mom of just boys. This is something that slowly can become a part of your identity…the mom of boys (or girls). I even liked, and kind of miss saying “my boys”. There are even websites for these types of families. It’s like a club that one secretly wishes they weren’t a part of. Well, I have definitely been kicked out of the club!
Now we have a little girl. She’s ours…she is here to stay! Can you believe it! I will actually be complaining soon about doing someone’s hair! I will get to see my son’s spoil their little sister…and it’s already happening!! I thought I would never say “sister” to my sons! She’s such a gift from God!
My plan was to have a completely natural experience with that pregnancy. I was not going to find out gender and I was going to have her at home. Well, for a couple of reasons…the gender thing didn’t quite work out, and thank God it didn’t! I got pregnant months after my father was diagnosed with Stage IV Cancer. He was living with my family for most of my pregnancy.
My daughter was born the month after he passed. When I found out I was having a girl I bought a little outfit and showed it to my husband and then my father. I was able to witness an expression that completely surprised me and never expected. When he realized I was having a baby girl he started to cry. He said “If only Len knew how lucky he is!”