Parent Like You Have 5 Kids! – Discipleship In Our Home
October 11, 2012 by Jannelle00
When I had my fourth child I realized things had to be managed differently in our home! For my sake and the kids’ sake! A friend, who also had a big family, told me I had to start thinking, parenting and managing my household differently. With these changes I have learned a parenting method I would recommend to any parent, no matter how many children they have! The changes have brought with them more opportunities to better disciple and train my children!
When I had my first child and even my second I remember all the energy and effort I spent with each child. I took them to story time at the library and play dates at the Family Center. I remember learning songs to sing to them and games to play with them. I tried so hard to always spend one-on-one time with each one.
Now that I have more children my babies’ experiences are different. We still go out frequently but their field trips and interactions are with older children. They still get to enjoy songs and books, but the ones doing the singing and reading to them, a lot of times, are their older siblings. Many times I am not the one that changes the baby’s diaper or gives her dinner.
When I am going through lessons with one or two children, I ask the other older child to spend one-on-one time with the baby. This gives the younger child the individual attention he/she needs, but also develops in the older child a sense of leadership, teaches him to serve the family and develops patience! Most importantly he is learning skills that will one day make him a better husband and father!
When my older sons read to the baby or play an educational game that involves counting or going through the alphabet, it also gives them an opportunity to practice an academic skill! My favorite benefit of having the children interact with their siblings in this way is how it builds sibling relationships! I love this one 🙂
This way of parenting is a necessity in this season of our life! I can’t be with each child and do everything when I would like to. We do this out of necessity but enjoy many benefits!
Would I have used this method of parenting if I had 2 or 3 children? Probably not, but as I have experienced the advantages and see what it has done in my children I would recommend it to anyone with more than one child.
Yes, I want to be the one to spend individual time with each of my children every time they need it. I want to be the one to teach them the nursery rhymes and read them stories, but I am willing to give some of it up to develop in my children godly character and memories that will last a lifetime.