I just spent the last few hour planning our week when we will implement one of the most important changes we have made in a long time.
One of the best things I can do for my children is teach them how to develop and live by good habits and routines. Good routines will help them commit to the things that matter, like reading their Bible, praying, and exercising daily even as their lives get more busy and complicated.
Learning to develop good habits and live by routines will help them be better husbands, fathers, and businessmen.
Taking the time to teach them this is paramount and more important than any academic lesson. I knew this in the past, but would always get overwhelmed with the process. Well, now I know what small steps will get me there, and more importantly what’s the most important steps to start with! READ ON!
I recently read The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. Wow! This is THE MOST practical book on this topic I’ve read so far and has awesome reviews! If this is an area you want to grow in, this book is the one you need! In it Hardy says: “Your only path to success is through a continuum of mundane, unsexy, unexciting, and sometimes difficult daily disciplines compounded over time.”
My success spiritually, emotionally, and physically is all about the small steps I take daily. It’s not about being strong, or taking big leaps. It’s about being committed, disciplined and consistent.
I have successfully implemented lots of changes in my life the past month. This week will be there first week that I will extend it onto my children and homeschool.
The first thing is to take small steps! I am NOT going to transform our schedule or methods. The change will come slowly and the changes will be made gradually.
We have chosen to start off with 3 things:
We will “bookend” our days.
The first habit we will implement is morning and night time routines. This is the most important one that Hardy recommends. My older boys have started a much earlier and more structured morning routine with me a few weeks ago. I will share more about it later. This week I will be implementing a lighter version for our children. The goal is to help them learn how to master their morning, because “when you own the morning, you own your day!” The night time routine is important because, a good one, sets your morning off to a great start. I have not been great at this, but with this system I will start the routine off much earlier, helping us get to bed on time.
We will have weekly family meetings.
With any change, accountability is essential. This goes for me as the mom and teacher, and then of course for each child. This is also a great time to look back at the week, celebrate successes publicly, motivate each other, and also challenge each other to improve in any areas that need it. We can also plan the week ahead with lessons learn and tweak the routines where ever necessary.
We will track our behavior in the area we look to improve.
In the book Hardy says,“To help you become aware of your choices, I want you to track every action that relates to the area of your life you want to improve.” I have been tracking my choices since I started making changes. The results are amazing! It has helped increase my awareness of my behavior and helped me stick to the new habit. It has also helped me see my growth and success, or areas I need to work in . I am going to have the kids use a similar tracking method. This system will also help me not have to monitor them as much, freeing me up to do other things that need my attention. It will also make it easier for me to hold them accountable on a daily basis, helping them succeed much quicker.
Their tracking system is the image below. Just a check list. There are some items that I still need to add. I am learning, though, to start off simple. Don’t make it too complicated. Especially for kids.
In my mission of raising men and women who are leaders who serve and influence those around them I can’t think of a more important skill to develop. Routines and habits will help them succeed in all areas of their life. What an honor to have the chance to help them instill this as early as possible!
How have routines and habits in your life served YOU?