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ImageTwo of my boys (6 and 9) wanted to invite Jesus into their heart last Friday and they both asked me to pray with them!

What a priviledge to be the one to pray this prayer with them! As I disciple my children this is a moment I look forward to! I try to remind myself, though, that this moment is just the beginning of a journey for them and not a task to be checked off in my “parenting” list.

As I talked with each of them separately I made sure to stress how they have decided to accept Jesus as their Savior and from now on must make sure that He is their Lord! They, like me, are now in a lifelong journey of learning to lay down their life, their desires and their passions for Him.

My boys are growing and maturing so quickly! It’s awesome to see how much they are learning about God, learning to fear and respect Him and simply just falling in love with Him!

They are each so different and have such unique gifts and personalities. I can’t help but wonder how the Lord is going to use them in their life. I even dare to have my own ideas on what their calling might be! This can be a fun mental excercise but is one that must be done with caution!

As I know join them in their new journey with Jesus as their Savior AND Lord I want to always remember that, as a parent, I am HELPING them discover GOD’S PLAN for them in their life. This involves their career/vocation, the spouses they choose, the way they choose to play out their life! IT’S ALL ABOUT THEM DISCOVERING GOD’S PLAN IN THEIR LIFE! How exciting that what God has for them dwarfs anything I can dream of for them! He knows them more than I ever will!


I want to learn to trust the process and not let my desires for them get in the way! If I am faithful in bringing them to Jesus I need to trust where He takes their life!

As a parent of children who will be teenagers in a few years and then young adults, I will have to walk with them as they make life decisions. I want to remember that I am simply a facilitator and to approach this part of parenting with godly wisdom. I pray the Ho

ly Spirit helps me know when to share my wisdom/advice and when to trust the choices that God is having them make!

Most of all I want to remember it’s not about me but about THEIR obedience to THEIR LORD!









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ImageIt is difficult to lead and train a person you don’t know. This is true in the corporate world when we are managing people and equally true in our home.

This principle is seen in Scripture. Relationship is important to God! He knows us and wants us to approach and get to know Him, our Abba (daddy in Hebrew)! In Jesus’ relationship with His disciples intimacy was important. He was more than a Teacher to them. We have so much to learn about discipleship from the Master! (There will be future posts exploring this entitled “Disciple Like Jesus”)

As I parent and educate my children there are always so many dynamics I have to take into consideration. I consider their unique personalities, interests and talents. Taking these into consideration helps me tailor their education to each of their specific needs.

Education and discipleship of my children doesn’t happen in a vacuum, though. I also have to consider sibling dynamics. This brought me to Dr. Kevin Leman’s book The Birth Order Book: Why You Are the Way You Are. I loved this book, and as a first born I went on to read Born to Win: Keeping Your Firstborn Edge Without Loosing Your Balance.

These books are teaching me so much about my kids but also about myself. Yes, we are born with a lot of set personality traits and have innate qualities and talents, but we are also a product of our experiences. Dr Leman says that although our children grow up in the same household, they do not grow up in the same environment. What a revelation! His book explains this very well and I will write future posts about it.

What are your experiences with birth order? Do you see special dynamic in your children and their sibling relationship? Do you have higher expectations of your oldest child? How has your birth order affected the person you are today?

I am working on a message and would love your input! Feel free to send it to nevelsjannelle@yahoo.com if you prefer 😉

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